We had attempted this method at six months but couldn't follow through and now I look back and think maybe Meili wasn't ready. Because when we tried it again three days ago, it worked!
I'm uncomfortable about the cry it out method and was glad to learn about this gentle method of helping baby learn to fall back asleep by herself when if woken during the night. I followed dr jay Gordon's guideline which he recommends for babies one year and up. The first three nights I put her down half awake after her 11pm feed and if she cried I would pick her up and hold her until she was half asleep again then put her down again. No nursing though.
She cried for up to an hour the first time and after that fell right asleep. Second night was less crying and she would wake and put herself back to sleep with a little whimper. It was incredible. She seems like she is trying hard to sleep and with a little crying she has managed to do so. Six hours straight! Let's see if this sticks.